Me as a Gestational Carrier!!

** A moment in my Tummy, forever in my heart**

Thank you for visiting my blog! I'm not the best writer so bare with me as I try to tell about my experience :) I am a mom of 4 ranging from ages 13-3. About 12 years ago I decided that one day I would help a family bring a child into this world. In 2011 I met my first Intended family and delivered a baby boy on Aprils fools Day 2012. I now am matched with my second family and I look forward to what this journey brings to us.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Miracle at Birth

Once I was in my labor room ready to get the show on the road. It was around 1am on April Fools Day.  My mom showed up and I was checked and I was a 4+ it was official there was change from being a 3 a couple hours earlier. I was in labor!

My Sexy dorky husband and my amazing nurse my mom

As another half an hour past I was hurting and I remember thinking were are the Intended Parents its been like 5 hours and it only takes an hour.  I looked at the clock it had only been 45 minutes since I called them and told them to leave. By this point I was tired, hurting and ready for my epidural. My mom wanted to wait till the Mommy and Daddy showed up so they
could be apart of everything. Thankfully they showed up. They had the sweetest smiles as they walked in. It was like they were ready to meet their baby boy. They were the luckiest people in that room and mommy doesn't have to feel any pain to get him here.  

I got my epidural, it took him a few minutes due to some tissue in my back. I had 4 contractions in the meantime. Felt like another 5 hours. My mom was holding me and my Intended mom was holding my hand. It finally worked and I was ready to rest and ready to dilate with no pain. 

Got to check Facebook

I Don't remember much after my epidural was in.  My friend showed up with her beautiful camera ready to capture this moment. I remember being checked a couple times,  feeling a big pop when my water finally broke. But other than this I don't remember conversations or anything else until it was time to start pushing.

Then it was time for Miracles to happen......

As they are dressing up my Intended mom to deliver her own son. The Doctor walked in ready to go. Not my regular Doctor, he had to go out of town on me. Dad was saying I will stay by your head. Thanks to my mom he got to hold a leg. I loved the look in his face as she says "grab this leg" He was ah really! He had to see and know what its like when you're having a baby.  He would have seen everything any ways. I love seeing, so there was a mirror.

I pushed once... ONCE!! While I was pushing, I looked at mom and dads face and I saw bright eyes. Then dad said " Wow he has a lot of hair". Then my mom said " he has the cord wrapped around his neck".  I yelled "Is he out?". With big smiles everyone said yes!!  He came out and had a sweet soft cry at 4:33am on April fools Day!! 

Mom Delivered her Baby boy
Daddy got to cut the cord. He was nervous. Before delivery he kept asking about what type of scissors he would need to cut it. We were telling him that they use the friskars brand.  He had to really put some muscle into cutting it, but with surgical scissors not friskars.

Dad cut the cord
They put the baby on my belly got him cleaned up.  Again after I don't remember to much. I think I just watched them play with their baby boy. While the doctor fixed me up. The doctor did tell me I know how to birth babies. I told him "it because of my wide set vagina" then my husband had to say "it works really well for him." It was fun to see the Doctor jump back in laughter.

Baby Boy weighed 6 pounds 11 ounces. 20 inches long!!

He has such a handsome face and I love his hair. It is so long and it sticks straight up. I know he is not my genetics but I think I helped a little with his cuteness because I baked him just right. 

Dad giving him his first feeding 

Then they were ready to move us over to mom and baby. The put my Intended mom and I both in a wheel chair.  

The Birth went exactly how I envisioned it and I couldn't ask for anything more. Except for not having doctor there. I will have to give him crap in a few weeks. I feel bad though, I know he really wanted to be there. Maybe from now on my doctor will know to plan his life around mine ;) 

Thank you Erin from Pink daffodil photography for my amazing photos !

Monday, April 23, 2012

Labor of love

On March 31,  I woke up with a little spotting. I wondered if it meant I would go into labor soon. My mom is a labor and delivery nurse and I had asked her to be my nurse. I called her Saturday knowing she was working that night and thought maybe she would check me and see if there had been any change.

About 7:30pm on Saturday my mom calls me to tell me she got called off work so if I want I can run up there and she would check real quick.  When I got there we had talked to her work friends for a bit then it was time to see if baby boy was getting ready. I was dilated to a 3. Then she stripped my membranes but she had said they were already stripped and my bag of water was really flimsy. Then I got up and instantly had a contraction that HURT! I passed it off that it was cause she checked me. We went to the front desk and talked to her co workers for a bit more.  I remember telling one of the girls I keep having ouchy contractions and she said  "you want me to time them?" I told her no its probably because my mom just checked me.

We decided to go get some dinner, we went to chilis. I wanted their chips and salsa. When we got there I started timing my contractions...

By the time we were done eating I was feeling pretty miserable. My mom had ran into an old friend at the restaurant and they were talking and all I could think was get me out of here. I actually was starting to think uh oh what did I do!! I asked my mom " will you kill me, I think your going to have to go back to work." By the time I left my contractions were 6 minutes apart. I went home and got in the bath, hoping they would stop. I wanted to go to bed.  By the time I got out of the bath the contractions were 3 minutes apart. At this point I still was thinking is it because I was checked. I climb into bed. I had 3 contractions and sweaty palms. I looked at my husband and said" I think its time" He was sad it was the last few minutes of a Lakers game and now he will miss it.  I called my mom and told her to meet me at the hospital but I was still worried that it was false labor. 

I got out of bed and as I got into the shower (I have to be squeaky clean if others are seeing my chochee)  I had a large amount of blood. While I was in the shower I yelled at my husband to call my Intended Parents and tell them to leave. They live about an hour away from the hospital. When I got out I was hunched over, breathing deep and moving as fast as I could to get out the door. My Aunt came in and saw me and said " You may want to call the Intended Parents, your husband made it sound like it may be false labor. They wanted us to call them when we got to the hospital to be sure.  And I can tell your in labor".  I let a contraction pass and what I can remember I called them and said "You need to leave now! This is it! I know it is" As I am panting.  

We got in the car and as we were driving I started a contraction and the road was in really bad shape. I was screaming "GET OFF THIS ROAD!!!" I was holding my butt off the seat trying not to feel the shaking car. My husband is saying "Dont kill me, sue the city" He then ran the red light to get me to the hospital that was on the corner.  I told him to drop me off at the door, I will walk myself up to Labor and delivery.  I didn't want to walk any farther than I had too! 

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Rewinding a bit

Mid march I remember starting to feel like April was coming too fast. I never really felt like I was ready to deliver. I felt really good. He was behaving himself and staying out of my ribs. I had major heartburn but the Antacid was doing its job. I was tired but thats nothing new. But knowing that when your done your done kinda made me not want to be done.

Taken at Baby shower 36 weeks 3 Days
We had a scare mid march that I really thought that my water had broken. Even the nurses thought it was but after 5 different test they sent me home. The weekend following my Intended mom had her baby shower. Up to this point I did not want to deliver but I remember feeling that after the shower it was safe to deliver anytime. I loved meeting her family and friends. They made me feel at home. Also Baby boy just kept moving and jumping out of my stomach. It was so nice to have them all witness that. I knew right then how much he would be loved. I knew he would be loved by his mommy, daddy and siblings but knowing extended family would adore him also just brought such peace to me.

Then the following monday we had our 37 week Dr. appointment.  I was dilated to a 2 and at this point I started to worry about when I would deliver because my Intended mom was leaving town that day until the end of the week. Then my Dr. was leaving the following weekend (which was when I delivered) and my Photographer was leaving town the day after my Doctor came back. I told my doctor that I really thought he would come on April 1st. while he was gone. He did not believe me. I don't know why but my whole pregnancy I thought April 1st.  As the next week approached I was 38 weeks  I really started to get anxious. This really bugged me. I didn't want to deliver I felt really good yet everyday I would think "will it be today".

Then on March 31, I woke up and I had a little spotting. All day I wondered did it mean anything. Little did I know it meant a lot..........

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

"April Fools"

Its not an April Fools joke. Baby Boy was born on April 1, 2012